I have been part of a book club for the past 3+ years, and I absolutely love it. A friend of mine decided to start it up about 3.5 years ago, and we are still going strong. We meet once a month, and it is something that I look forward to every. single. month. Now, raise your hand if you are thinking, “Seriously? I don’t have time to read.” Believe me, I get it. But book club is about so much more than just reading a book every month.
After having kids, your life literally gets turned upside down for a while. Just getting a shower and brushing your teeth on any given day feels like a monumental victory. Your life becomes filled with dirty diapers, endless laundry, and online shopping. At some point, you realize that the house is a disaster, you’ve ordered take-out yet again because you’re too tired/busy/crazed to cook, the kids are screaming about who knows what, and you start to believe that you are the only person on the planet who doesn’t have her s**t together. I mean, the evidence is right there on Facebook/Instagram/Snapchat/etc. Every single other person you know is living a wildly happy and perfect life. Right?!
And this, my friends, is why you need a book club.
Whether you are a working mom, or a stay-at-home mom, being a mom can be isolating. As I just mentioned, there is so much to do and take care of at home, that we end up falling into the same patterns day in and day out. As moms, we feel like we need to be in control of everything, and we often have trouble handing over the reins in order to take care of ourselves. So, when it comes to leaving the house…if it’s not absolutely necessary, forget it. Click list, anyone? Unfortunately, though, the day-to-day routine, when children are small and desperately needy, can begin to weigh on us. So, being able to get out of the house – kid-free – once and awhile is vital for us to recharge our batteries.
Here are some of the things that a book club can offer:
As a mom, having friends is essential. And being able to get together with your friends, as adults, is every bit as important. Most of the women in my book club are moms, which is great. Not everyone is, though, and that’s really great, too. Book club is a chance for me to chat with other moms and realize that they are going through the same things that I am. They are experiencing the same emotions and struggling with many of the same things. You mean, I’m not the only one on the planet who doesn’t have it all together? Phew! It’s also fantastic to have some non-moms in the group to help provide conversation that doesn’t center around children. They offer topics that remind us that we are also wives, sisters, and friends – not just moms.
In just about any group of women, conversation is never short, and inevitably, laughter is plentiful. These are two things that don’t always happen on a daily basis when you’re a mom, yet they are so necessary for your well-being.
Because, I mean, really, what is a book club without wine? My own book club often jokes that we should call ourselves a wine club that enjoys reading books. Haha! Now, don’t get me wrong, we’re not a bunch of lushes or anything, but there is something so relaxing about being able to share a bottle of wine with some of your gal pals. Plus, it can only increase the laugh factor of the gathering, which we have already determined is absolutely vital.
Every book club is different, but there is always food at the one I belong to. We actually rotate hosting throughout the year. We aren’t on any set schedule – we just take turns offering to host when it’s convenient for us. The host is responsible for providing food for everyone. It may sound like a lot, but there are enough people in my group that we only have to host about once every 12-15 months. And providing all of the food once a year, is significantly easier than having to come up with something to contribute every single month to a pot luck style dinner. So, it’s great. We get fabulous food every month, but only have to work for it about once a year. Win-win. 🙂
Meeting New People
Joining a book club can be a great way to meet new people and make new friends. Even a book club like the one I belong to, which started as a bunch of women I was already friends with, can bring new friendships. Established friends invite other friends to join, and suddenly there are new faces in the group. New faces that you already have multiple things in common with, such as books, wine, and food! You never know when you may meet someone who you just click with, and a new friendship is born.
Ha! Are you thinking, “Shouldn’t this have been first on the list?” Not necessarily. As I have stated, book club is about so much more than just books. BUT, they are certainly an important aspect of any book club.
I love to read, but for me, reading often gets pushed to the side when there are so many other things to do. Knowing that everyone will be discussing the current selection at our monthly gathering, though, helps gives me a reason to prioritize reading, which is truly good for my soul. Also, some of the books that are chosen are books that I would have never read otherwise, but have truly enjoyed. It’s a great way to broaden your horizons and discover new genres/authors.
So, what are you waiting for?! Hurry up, and join a book club! Local libraries and churches are a great place to start, if you are looking for an established book club. Don’t be afraid to start your own, though! Gather a group of girlfriends and start setting a monthly date. You may be surprised at how easy it is to get one started. Plus, I think you will find that they are both fun and therapeutic. And let’s be honest, we could all use some of both of those things in our lives.
If you have any questions about how to get started, don’t hesitate to contact me. I’d love to help out!!